Magical Sex, Sex Magick & Sexual Alchemy

 

“Only the united beat of sex and heart together can create ecstasy.”
~    Anaïs Nin, Delta of Venus

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There was a time when the veneer of erotic mystery seeped only through the pores of books, leaving enough the imagination. Now we see all kinds of mainstream media featuring sex, de-glamorizing and demystifying what can be a truly magickal act.

Is this the future of Magick involving sexuality ?

Magickal Sex is advertised en mass along with many products and “advice” to produce longer, more powerful and more plentiful orgasms. Even so with a spiritual flavor. It has been trivialized. Just how many graphic, rainbow colored people seated in the Yab-Yum position on a lotus bed do we need to see on book covers and websites, before we start yawning out of bland mediocrity? The entire demystifying “Been there and done that” attitude?

The sacred has become trivialized in our modern times via the media, with the internet being the most misleading of all. Those without any real notion of what the differences are between great magickal sex, sex magick and sexual alchemy posit their theories and experiences. The sacred arte and rites of sex magick are published out in the open on the internet. Will it become trite as the S&M and B&D subculture seemingly has?

Those of us that revere the sacred, refuse to trivialize the sacred sexual artes. They are undoubtedly some of the most potent magick on this earth. Our power through sexuality is true gift from the Divine!

However, with all the publicity sex has been granted, the occult has not been immune either. This has caused a mass exodus of Magician wanna bes wanting to learn sexual magick as soon as they hit the internet. Usually, it is for personal gain. Not that this is wrong necessarily, but so much has been misconstrued as to what the differences are between magickal sex, versus sex magick and sexual alchemy. Hermetic Sexual Alchemy in particular. There are other types of sexual alchemy as well, such as Taoist Sexual Alchemy. I am not going to discuss the latter in this article. Taoist practice deserves it’s own essay.

Each of the three aforementioned types of sex combined with magick, have unique purposes as well as intertwining ones. I have seen much confusion propagated by the internet and even the entertainment industry in this regard.

Do not be fooled. One thing is not necessarily the other. Even if they are not mutually exclusive of each other. There are still fundamental differences.

Don’t confuse magical sex with sex magick. Likewise, with sex magick and sexual alchemy. All too often these are assumed to be the same practice used as labels, synonymously. Sex magick and sexual alchemy are also fundamentally different from each other and performed for very different purposes than having magickal sex or doing sex magick.

So, in order to explain this, let’s just start with sex….

Great sex, sacred sex or “magickal sex” is super-sensual sex and eroticism which seems to take us beyond the realm of the physical into that of the extraordinary via the senate facilities.  In this realm, we have an intrinsic feeling of oneness not only with our partner(s) (or our innermost selves in masturbation, but perhaps also with some form of divine existence. It is an overall intensely pleasurable experience. It is just that. Simple. There are no necessary preparations, there are no rules, no boundaries (unless partners wish there to be some) and just about anyone can engage in it. There is no need to be learning some esoteric program, take classes nor read books…Unless one wants to of course.

This is where the modern so-called “California Tantra” tends to come in. It is called such due to a large movement of people residing in the state of California U.S.A. who teach various techniques of sexual fulfillment. Some are genuine in regards to what they offer and some are not. It is NOT the same as actual East Indian Tantra however. I will not delve further into that subject in this article as it deserves its own separate essay, yet I thought I would mention it as people tend to get “California Tantra” and East Indian Tantra confused. This article is, after all about defining what is what.

Specific techniques in magickal sex may or may not be used, but when they are, it is the obvious such as: varying positions of coitus, types of breathwork and methods for delaying orgasmic arousal. Partners can even assume roles of a mythological God and Goddess to further spiritualize the lovemaking. Or, do so if for no other reason, setting up an atmosphere of energetic reverence and worship of each other’s bodies. Sometimes mediation or stretching exercises are recommended beforehand if it is a planned experience. It can also be completely spontaneous. Magickal sex is nothing more, yet nothing less.

Sex Magick deviates from magickal sex in that the goals are very specific and extend beyond the act of sex.  Sexual Magicians are deliberately harnessing and using vital sexual energy at it’s primal core through specific practices to attract, to heal, to influence events and the environment around them. Sometimes, they are aiming at influencing other people as well.  Essentially, Sex Magick is the use of sex for more than sex. This takes usually some degree of mental and physical preparation as well as focus and technique.

Being immersed in erotic experience as well as being focused on the goal is of utmost importance. The task of the Sex Magician is to balance the two and be sensitive to the energies he/she is manipulating in themselves and in their partner(s) if they are working with others. Since magick is exponential in nature, it is a great benefit if the couple or people in a group involved are all adept at working with the raw, primal energies of the serpent. Two people or even a group not knowing what exactly they are doing are not able to focus and direct the tremendous power that comes with sexual magick.  It is recommended that the practitioners have some magickal experience utilizing non-sexual magick prior to doing sex magick, if for no other reason than to have acquired the mental and energetic discipline necessary to carry out one’s Will through this method.

Sex Magick tends to be highly abused by those that crave power.

Unto them I say “Be wary of what you wish for, you just might get it!”

Just as awakening the inner fire serpent or dragon can be illuminating, it can also turn on those who get carried away by their own desires and denigrate the sacred!

Purely sexual magick operations are typically to be performed with some discipline and minimal preparation depending on the desired outcome and planning of the practitioner unless it is a spontaneous working, although I recommend preparations being critical to the ratio of successful outcome. Sex Magick primarily uses the vital, concentrated serpentine power of orgasm itself in accord with the Magician’s Will to fulfil a need or desire. That concentration of power is the locus by which the Will manifests. He or she can accomplish this solo in a masturbatory manner, with a partner, or even in a group. Sex Magick can be a highly ritualized affair or else stripped down to its bare, energetic essentials, but regardless one needs to be in a magickal frame of mind when engaged in it and do beforehand whatever it takes to get there if needed. I have been practicing sex magick since my teens, hereditary witch that I am and therefore have had plenty of time as I now near cronehood, to perfect my techniques and to have learned from my mistakes as well.

It is generally recommended however to commit to a certain amount of ritual abstinence. This usually ranges from just a few days prior to weeks. The operations can be done under the auspices of different  aspects using the moon, sun and the stars to add extra esoteric potency as well as doing a type of ritual utilizing a similar premise to the Wiccan Great Rite for couples. This draws on the powers of deities in polarity aspect whereby a man and woman are vessels for divinity and thus the magickal operation is worked such.  This is the highest form of sex magick. It is done for sometimes the good of all, not just the couple serving as conduits. That which is formed on the ethers from the conjoining of subtle bodies of partners are considered to be one type of  “Magickal Children”.

…Needless to say, my husband/partner and I have a rather large family! We have no flesh and blood children between the two of us, but instead those born of different forms upon subtle planes of existence. Magickal Children also do not have to be human children, as they most often are not, but creative projects that physically manifest or even that which resides on the astral . A Temple, an esoteric Order, my writing projects, our successful careers, overcoming health issues and more, have been proof of our efforts in manifesting our Wills upon this plane of existence!

Sex magick can be part of an existing ceremonial ritual such as the Great Rite or other, to further harness the energies and direct them. I have done this myself both solo and with my partner on many occasions to great effect afterwards. What is essential is focus.  As a practice, sex magick is visceral in nature once you get to a certain point, yet getting to that point requires mental discipline before diving into the oblivious ocean of carnal bliss and releasing the energy out into the Cosmos for the primordial forces existing before time, to possess and assist you.

Focusing on what it is one wants to effect with change while building up to orgasm is essential. This can range from healing certain parts of the body of one’s self or partners, to manifesting something on the physical plane of existence, such as a job opportunity or attracting a mate. Some use talismans in the work to focus on while engaging in sex and some use the sexual fluids released to charge various talismans, implements, or sprinkle on a written spell.

Some use Sex Magick however to influence others directly on the psychic planes. This is a form of black magick used as a method of mind control on the astral plane. Personally, I discourage it’s use in this manner. Once we use these forces for interfering in another’s life it can easily boomerang. Sex magick can be incredibly potent. This is a wise notion to keep in mind before dwelling on ways to corrupt one’s own energy. This is a very real danger of sex magick.

That fire which illuminates can also burn ferociously.

…So can obsession and mental delusion as by-products of sex-magick ritual gone wrong.  However, if done correctly sex magick is undeniably perhaps the most potent form of magick there is available to the Magician/Witch to use in works of manifestation and even healing, on the face of Gaia!

Despite the same premise in both sex magick sexual alchemy that our sexuality is used as a conduit or vessel for specific purposes other than the pleasures of sex, there are fundamental differences.

Sex magick is part of Sexual Alchemy, yet Sexual Alchemy is not necessarily part of sex magick. They are two very distinct types of practices despite utilizing some of the same techniques. The key word is “some”.

Confused yet? Let’s put some further definition to this to clarify…

Sexual Alchemy has a different purpose. In it’s  Hermetic practice it utilizes Hermetic concepts as well as knowledge of alchemical processes. It is different from sex magick in that it absolutely requires extensive preparation, extreme discipline and it is used not to influence one’s environment and external events, but to Transform one’s self from the inside out.  It is also not recommended for practitioners that do not already have an extensive amount of disciplined magickal practice to draw upon. In magickal Orders, it is typically reserved only for the higher-level Adepts as they supposedly have already assimilated and equilibrated the cosmic energies and balanced their own inner fires over a course of many years in rigorous curricula. And, that is only if there is an Alchemical Master or other, who is a steward of Alchemical secrets to bestow such practices. They may be considered above all, a gift.

If you do not yet have any mastery of the “Language of Birds” and cannot tell what the difference is between the Alchemical “Wet Way “and “Dry Way”, then you probably have no business doing Sexual Alchemy. If you have no conception of what the “Language of Birds” means, you may want to evaluate whether to take up a study of Alchemical concepts before proceeding to seek out instruction and practice. I highly suggest some books which will be listed at the end of this article. I have read each of these books (Some of them multiple times over, cover to cover) and all but one of them are in my possession. Some are rather thick, yet if one takes the time to read, and re-read them, it is more than worthwhile. I discourage relying upon too much of what is out on the internet these days. To truly start to grasp the concepts of the “Royal Art” an education is needed, then practice.

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” Aeterna Saltatus” by Andrew Gonzales

Mastery over the kundalini serpent after a full awakening has occurred, is essential prior to sexual Alchemy. There need to be an understanding of alchemical concepts, processes and certain other esoteric magickal practices aimed at one’s own energy manipulation and control in addition to a Kundalini awakening. Awakening the kundalini can be dangerous if not done in due preparation. The sheer amount of physical and psychic energy released all at once can overwhelm and damage the unprepared. The kundalini serpent does have a venomous bite to those who rouse her too soon or too rapidly from her resting place at the base of our spines.

In memorandum when I had my full kundalini awakening from many years ago…

It was at a time whereby I was consciously engaged in rigorous practice with exercises to open the serpent energy channels in stages. However, I kept pushing the envelope doing more and more until one night, while having intense magickal sex with my spiritual partner following ritual, I experienced what seemed to be incredibly violent seizures and every part of my body was in throes of orgasm. There was no yonic point of origin anymore, the orgasm was all over. I was one with everything and all was submerged in a waterfall of energy! I bathed in such energy until I drowned…

During the whole time, I was in such a state of ecstasy that my ka spirit ended up equally violently being thrown right out of my body, and I found myself in astral form looking down on the two of us on the bed. Prior to that, I had felt a sensation my entire skull opening, some force entering the back of my neck, and then my soul being forced out the top through my head! Moreover, what was experience then was as if Creation itself had manifested in minuscule atoms of prismatic flashes dancing in streaming diadems about me. There is where I felt “God” simultaneously feeling as if I were divinity also, the Divine Feminine. There was no thought, only an immense rush of powerful energy, my body reacting to it, then the expulsion of my spirit…

By the grace of my Holy Guardian Angel and my Gods, I ended up back in my flesh, still shaking uncontrollably and weeping so very hard to the point my partner asked if I were ok.  Crying followed with insane laughter, beating the cushions with my fists. Every conceivable range of emotion was felt all at once. This felt like the surrender of the soul to death. Le petit mort” seemed more like “La grande morte”!  It was a very powerful spiritual experience taking me beyond the limits of the physical body, but it was also one that also almost “fried” my energetic circuitry. It was too close. I do not recommend pushing the envelope. Severe convulsions at the time of kundalini awakening are not considered a good sign. This was something I did not realize at the time and no one told me what to watch out for. I did some research after the fact.  It is supposed to be a slow process, not a “big bang”. No pun intended…

When working with one’s inner dragon fires. GO SLOW. I cannot emphasize this enough. If you have a Teacher that tells you to do nothing but breathe in and out slowly for an hour at a time every day for months, do it.  I did not initially have the proper training despite getting a book thrown at me full of energetic delights to play with and managed to find my way back to sip at the table of delights. I was lucky. You may or may not have that same good fortune…

In Hermetic Sexual Alchemy, calming of the mind and emotions as well as the ability to consciously control the wild energies perpetuated by hormonal impulses are key. This is much more difficult than one may think. Preparation begins with abstinence just as in most Sex Magick operations. It is very structured. When we do not release energy via orgasm after a long time, we may get pent up, sexually frustrated and even lash out with emotional impulses run rampant. This is the greatest err on behalf of the Sexual Alchemist. We are seeking to transmute these powerful inner currents, using our bodies, mind, hearts and souls in unison. We are the alembics and retorts. Changes and manifestations can result from the practices of the “Internal” also termed the “Sexual Alchemist”.

Once a planned operation goes sour with tainted emotions gone amok, it is ruined and needs to be prepared for and started all over again. Think of plant material in spyragic lab alchemy. If the “prima materia” is heated too much or too little, you get a tainted product and need to re-do the operation. Same concept holds for Inner, Sexual Alchemy. In internal alchemy you are the prima materia!

Let’s also not get “direct” Internal, Sexual Alchemy confused with “indirect” Internal Alchemy. The indirect form is more psychological in nature and corresponds to a much slower processing over several years of working Hermetic curriculum.  It does not involved sex directly, but does involve the vital force. The indirect and direct however work well in conjunction with each other and one comes before the other initially. Much of the indirect in practice, doing specific exercises of meditation and Hermetic Invocatory Work is done prior to more direct methods or Internal Sexual Alchemy as one needs to be primed energetically for direct Work. This also may limit the danger of such direct practices as the Adept should already have worked with energies extensively in practical application as well as in theory prior to embarking on direct Sexual Alchemy.

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So by now, you get the impression perhaps that Sexual Alchemy is not about fun and games, nor unlike sex magick alone, used to manifest desires or to influence one’s environment. Instead, it is used to Transform one’s inner self to the core in the most direct, and indeed most magickally dangerous way.

Specific practices are typically orally transmitted from teacher to student rather than written down and are oath-bound. I am not going to divulge them. “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear” is an axiom to keep in the forefront of one’s conscious thoughts in regards to Sexual Alchemy. Demands of such practices on the body, psyche and energetic body of the Adept are considerable. Bringing one’s own biological drives under complete and utter control of the conscious mind is required. Doesn’t sound much fun, does it?  It is not supposed to be done just for fun in the first place. It is considerable Work and not for the inexperienced nor fragile minded. This however, does not mean is cannot be ecstatic. On the contrary, the work of the Sexual Alchemist is very much a catapult to Divine ecstasy, utilizing and transmuting the carnal into something much more. How can that not be pleasureable, right?

There is a caveat: The idea of harnessing one’s own desire nature to function in an almost mechanically conceived manner can potentially be as romantic as flipping on a bic lighter and applying the fire to some logs. This can be a turn-off, so using ritual as well as imagination and ingenuity in foreplay is essential. Those that have ventured into this area know this. There is great sacrifice even of one’s own pleasures.  In other words, be prepared to do things when you initially may not be in the mood to, and there will be times you want to, yet won’t be able to, once committed to the process. I can say no more at this point about this.That which is impure in your mind will also surface to be expiated, therefore being prepared to deal with the intense psychological effects is also a must.  The sexual urges are primal ones, deeply rooted in the psyche like the responses for fight or flight are.

Modern references that barely scratch the surface of what Sexual Alchemy is, tend to water down this part or leave it out, either because the material is not genuine, or because perhaps the author wants the reader to be more enticed. Now, I am not suggesting any of this is unpleasant. Sex, especially that of a spiritual nature, should be extremely pleasurable! However, depending on your age, libido and other factors, this practice can be difficult. Those with less libido may find long periods of abstinence between sessions easier to handle than someone with a very high one and thus can maintain emotional control better and stoking the fires will be easier beforehand with less chance of failure. However, those with a very high libido may have an easier time getting aroused on “demand’ for the activity as someone with less may not be in the mood when the time is ripe.

To this point, I have pondered a the catch 22 situation….that involving the decline of human biological processes versus the need to be well educated and practiced in the Hermetic Arts before actually engaging in Sexual Alchemy…

On one hand, it takes so many years to become an Adept in the first place, sometimes decades before the initiate is supposedly of the proper “degree or grade” to receive such direct Alchemical teachings that he/ she may be quite old when they get them!  In Aleister Crowleys’ O.T.O. such teachings supposedly reside in the degree of I X. It takes a very long time however to get from the “Man of Earth Triad” to the “ “Lovers Triad” and onto that of the “Hermit”. There is even a point of over a decade between just one of the degrees, whereby the initiate commits to service and no further degree advancement until those years of service time is fulfilled. One can reasonably assume that it takes decades to become a ninth degree, if one can even reach that level of attainment in one’s lifetime. It would require starting on the Path in an Order at a young age and  many do not possess the maturity to do disciplined Order Work until older or else are too busy with other concerns such as higher education, mundane career and looking for that perfect someone or “someones”…..Needless to say, I  myself am not anywhere near the ninth degree in the O.T.O. as I had only become an initiate in my early 40’s. Instead, I received my Sexual Alchemy teachings elsewhere as a result of other Traditions I had been working in and been initiated into for a very long time beforehand.

On the other hand, both men and women naturally have more sex drive when young.  I have known only  few Hermetic Adepts who were younger than their 40’s in age. And by the 30’s and 40’s, the libido in men and women does tend to decrease, like it or not, with the men starting to decline before the women as we tend to peak in our early to mid 30’s. However, as Magicians, if we work constantly and conscientiously, our energy should at least be reasonably maintained for a longer time that those who are not Magicians and Alchemists. As stated before “sexual energy is spiritual energy and vice-versa”

To not only emphasize the sacredness of the Royal Art, but also to ensure both partners are in the right mindset, doing rites beforehand is a must to get the most out of the experience and not encounter issues pertaining to the desire nature. The periods of abstinence, just as in Sex Magick also helps with this. Taking on the energy of a God and Goddess and thus be imbued with Divine power also can preface to consummate the union properly. Remember, this spiritualizing of the carnal act in a way that the mind of yourself and your partner can both be present for what is considered the same as a magickal ritual is important. After All, you would not wear your shoes in a Temple, be impure in body nor thoughts. You would be donned in your magickal garments with an appropriate atmosphere created. Such is the same with a Sexual Alchemical practice and ritualized Sexual Magick. Imbuing yourselves and each other with Divine energy and seeing each other’s Divine Self is essential or the operation will most likely fall flat.  This is where Magickal Sex and Sex Magick is part of Sexual Alchemy.

                                                Sexual power is spiritual power and vice versa!

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Hieronymus Bosch-“Rosarium Philosophorum”

Sexual Alchemy is using one’s own internal sexual energy (or fires) to speed up one’s spiritual development and it tends to work best and fastest, with a partner. Therefore, your bodies become tools, just as crucible or a magick wand or a cup, and just as all alchemical operations are, there are different phases and it takes a lot of time commitment. The purpose of Sexual Alchemy is to be able to become consciously aware of and further develop different “subtle bodies” other than the physical of the Magician, and that means having complete command of Hermetically correspondent forces within one’s self. The axiom ”As Above, so Below” is applicable. The axiom itself is beloved by all Magicians with more that just wistful sentiment.  Turning one’s self into an energetic crucible to build up these subtle bodies makes one take a second look at this and see that becoming a Co-Creator of life is a responsibility.

At this last point… I claim my silence. A list of recommended publically published books for theoretical education with Alchemical symbolism, history of the “Royal Art” as well as magickal sex and sex magick practices are provided. Good luck my friends and dear Brethren in the Great Work!

Copyright © 2016 Leigh-Ann Rose Grace. All Rights Reserved.

RECOMMENDED BOOKS:

“The Hermetic Tradition: Symbols and Teachings of the Royal Art” Copyright © 1971  Julius Evola – Edizoni Mediterranae, Translated from Italian by E.E. Rehmus- Inner Traditions International

“Eros and the Mysteries of Love: The Metaphysics of Sex”  (“Metafisica del Sesso”) Copyright © 1969 Julius Evola- Edizoni Mediterranae,  English Translation Copyright © 1983, 1991 Inner Traditions International

“Polarity Magic: The Secret History of Western Religion”  Copyright © 2003   Wendy Berg and Mike Harris- Lewellyn Worldwide

“The Tree of Ecstasy: An Advanced Manual of Sexual Magic” Copyright © 1991 Dolores Ashcroft-Nowicki – Samuel Weiser, Inc.

“The Art of Sexual Magic” Copyright© 1995 Margo Anand aka M.E. Nasledrikov- G.P. Putnam’s Sons- New York

“Modern Sex Magick: Secrets of Erotic Spirituality”  Copyright © 1998  Donald Michael Craig- Lewellyn Publications

“The Dragon Legacy: The Secret HIstory of an Ancient Bloodline” Copyright © 1985-2001, 2004  Nicholas De Vere, introduction by Tracy Twyman, produced in conjunction with Societas Draconis and Ordo Lapsit Exilis-  The Book Tree

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